As humans, we all have a light side and a dark side with each side playing a role in our personality and life. Both sides are what make us who we are. You can’t ignore your dark side because it’s a part of what makes you, you. Rather, you need to accept it, understand it, and use it to help you achieve your goals.
So, what exactly is your dark side?
We are all well-aware of our good side. It’s the side of us that we show to people in public. It’s the best of everything we are. It’s what makes us shine as human beings. It’s what we thrive for and aspire to be.
But what is the dark side in you?
It’s not as simple as the opposite of what you like about yourself.
The dark side of your personality is often a rejected, ignored pile of emotions, situations and phobias that you try to forget with all your might. Your dark side is what you hate most in yourself. It’s your fear of failure, it’s your extreme shyness or your unhealthy compulsions. Or maybe it’s a drug or alcohol addiction or your horrible temper. Whatever it is, you can’t wish it away no matter how hard you try.
Why should you accept your dark side?
Most people’s approach toward their dark side is to fight it or ignore it. Some religions and counseling techniques instruct you to destroy the darkness within yourself in order to live a happy life. In my opinion, this is an unhealthy approach because it causes you to split your personality in two rather than teaching you how to accept and use your dark side to your benefit.
Accepting your dark side has some definite advantages.
First, when you accept your dark side and realize that it is a part of who you are, all of the energy that you spend fighting it will suddenly be available for other purposes. By accepting that you are who you are, you will have access to a new source of personal power and you will have more energy to channel into building up what you like about yourself.
Second, when you accept your dark side, you take a big step toward inner wholeness and integrity. Acting with integrity means acting with all your being, not just following a moral code. Of course, following a moral code is a personal decision, but you can make that decision with integrity, with all your being.
Keeping yourself mentally separated: “I am a good person for doing this, but I am a bad person because I have this addiction,” will put you to a state of constant mental disruption. We’re not designed to act in a fragmented way. Rather, we’re supposed to act as a whole unique person, with good and bad parts.
And third, when you accept you have a dark side, you establish a starting point. You know who you are as a whole person and you can now begin the work to integrate the two sides of your personality. You can understand that you’re not only a hard-working, respectable person, but you are also the person who isn’t perfect. This is who you are and it’s time to accept it. The way to the light is through the darkness.
Once you understand and accept your dark side, you can begin the inner work of reconciling your two sides and integrating both into a happy, healthy existence. It won’t happen overnight, but once it does, you will be able to fully accept who you are and move forward along your path in life.
So what can your Zodiac sign tell you about your dark side?
There have been many articles written about the traits of each zodiac sign. Most of them concentrate on the positive side of each sign. But, with the light there is dark; with the sweet their is sour. So it is with each zodiac sign. We all have a side of us that we don’t like to show.
Here are the dark traits of each zodiac sign:
Aries is the most impulsive and impatient of the zodiac signs. They also tend to be immature. Also, if an idea isn’t theirs, they don’t agree with it.
They’re prone to childish remarks when they get their feelings hurt as well.
Taurus is possessive, materialistic, and sometimes vain. They sometimes need to be forcefully taught the golden rule. They’re stubborn and can be overly self-indulgent and lazy.
Taurus can get way too into superficial things, whether it’s personal vanity over their looks or just an obsession with having all the newest and most expensive stuff on the market.
Gemini are like a few different personalities rolled into one. A real grab bag, if you will. You never know what you’re going to get. They enjoy tons of different interests and tend to consider themselves the master of all of them.
Geminis love to talk so much that you can barely get a word in. Geminis are interested in so many different things that they have difficulty committing to just one.
Gemini tends toward arrogance and cockiness. They think they know it all and they aren’t shy about it.
They can also be unreliable, not necessarily the person you want to depend on in a pinch.
Cancers are known to be nurturing and affectionate, but this also means that they are extremely emotional and sensitive.
Cancers are moody (they are crabs, after all). They are cautious and timid to the point where it’s very difficult to get them to move out of their comfort zone.
Cancers are very sensitive and easy to offend. Sorry if that offends you!
Leo tends to be charming and lovable, but they often charm and love themselves the most. They demand attention and will try to be the center of it at all times.
There’s no great way to put it, Leo is an attention addict. For Leo, everything revolves around them. They’ve never met a mirror they don’t love!
If they start feeling ignored, they will throw a tantrum.
Be careful when you’re hanging out with a Virgo, because they tend to be much more judgmental than the other signs.
They’re perfectionists, so even so much as a crooked smile can set them off and have them gossiping.
They tend to be judgmental and pessimistic to the point where, when they’re down, they think the world is going to end.
The Virgo has high standards. Incredibly high, unreasonable standards for everyone and everything in their life. They are perfectionists and they will judge you if you’re not up to par.
Don’t expect to see them beating themselves up over personal failings, though. In their own eyes, they’re flawless and everyone else is slacking.
Libra is indecisive. They spend a lot of time preparing and studying for every little thing.
They’re the kinds of people who stand in the grocery store with two bottles of ketchup carefully examining the labels. God just pick a f*cking thing and move on.
Libras take forever to make a decision because they have to weigh every possible option. They will do anything to keep the peace to the extent where they abandon their own values.
Libras are fascinated with beauty and will primp for hours before being ready to go out.
They panic at the thought of commitment and they aren’t very good at keeping promises. They don’t mean to be malicious, but they aren’t loyal either.
Hell hath no fury like a Scorpio scorned. They’re passionate but tend to be manipulative and fiery. For them, bad moods are a baseline.
Scorpios are very unforgiving. If you wrong a Scorpio, they will make your life miserable. Scorpios can easily spiral down into darkness and despair.
This sign has a temper of epic proportions and when something gets under their skin, they will over react with a fury unlike any other.
Sagittarians are well known for being blunt, and their bluntness borders on tasteless at times. They tend to be know-it-alls and are easily bored.
Sagittarius are very self-righteous and often lack good social etiquette. They don’t pick up cues when they’re being rude or offensive and they simply don’t care much about tact or subtlety.
This sign will tear you to shreds if they find a chink in your armor and then they’ll claim it was for your own good.
Capricorns are controllers. They don’t really go with the flow. They often use people for their own benefit and thrive on gossip and negativity.
Capricorns thrive on negativity. They won’t think twice about using someone to further their cause.
Aquarius thinks they’re so logical and smart, meaning they’re quick to judge others. They spend a lot of time living in their own heads and seem detached. They often give good advice but almost never follow it.
They are so eager to give advice that they don’t hear what you’re actually trying to say.
Pisces lacks direction. They tend to be space cadets and accidentally aloof. They’re supposed to be the oldest and wisest sign, but they tend to be gullible.
Pisces are spacey and aloof. They love “going with the flow.”
Source: Higher Perspectives