6 Kinds Of Emotional Abuse You May Have Experienced If You Had Narcissistic Parents

The question of narcissistic parents is often necessary, but rarely asked. We often discuss what to do with narcissistic children but we rarely pose the question what happens when narcissistic kids become narcissistic parents?

Narcissistic individuals spread like an epidemic, at the same speed as obesity. Narcissism is characterized by a lack of empathy, an attachment of great importance to oneself, a constant need for worship by the environment. Of course, we are all a bit narcissistic, it’s completely human and in fact, represents a developmental stage in the youth. Problems arise when narcissism begins to affect our work and interpersonal relationships.

These 6 types of emotional abuse occur in families with narcissistic parents:

1. Rejection
Narcissistic parents will use every opportunity to let their children know they are unwanted, that they were a mistake in the world and shouldn’t have lived. When children’s worth is underestimated or their needs hindered this represents a type of emotional abuse. Also the parents may use name-calling or the children may be refused to be held by such parents. Other signs of rejection include:

Cursing or swearing
Refusing to offer nurturing gestures
Making the child feel like it doesn’t belong in the family
Treating older children as babies
Telling the children it would be better if they were the opposite sex
Demeaning labels

2. Ignoring
Some parents that didn’t receive enough attention when they were children become parents that don’t know how to provide those needs to their kids. They don’t show their kids the appropriate care they deserve. Being physically present is not good enough, they need to really tend to their emotional needs. Some of the signs include:

They don’t pay enough attention to important events in their school/social life
Plan things without including the children
They don’t protect them
Don’t accept their children as their offspring
Fail to respond to the social behaviors of their children

3. Terrorizing
Often, narcissistic parents use their size and words to terrorize their children. They curse and yell at them so much, that they become psychologically damaged. Using harsh words to children may make them feel intimidated and scared. Some of the signs include:

Cursing and yelling
Raging emotions with occasional periods of warmth
Threatening to harm the things the child loves
Telling the children that they don’t belong in the family
Threatening to kick the children out of the house
Forcing the children to do or watch things they make them feel uncomfortable
Verbal threats

4. Isolating
Narcissistic parents sometimes use isolation as tactic and they might try to prevent the child from socializing with peers. They keep the infants in their room without any stimulation. Or the teenagers may not be allowed to participate in extracurricular activities or go to the prom. Some parents even don’t allow their children to use the bathroom as a type of punishment. Some other forms include:

Keeping the children away from the rest of the family
Making the child look different from the others
Punishments for normal behavior
Isolating the child from friends
Leaving the kid alone for prolonged periods

5. Corrupting
Narcissistic parents may expose children to negative influence such as sexual acts, violence and criminal actions. They force their children to do harm to others or to steal. Encouraging the children to do criminal activities is a type of abuse:

Rewarding children for bullying behavior
Reinforcing sexual activities
Allowing the children to do criminal activities
Allowing children to steal, lie and cheat

6. Exploiting
Narcissistic parents tend to give assignments to children that they should still not have. For instance, forcing children aged 10 to work is a type of abuse. Exploitation means that the child receives responsibilities that are too big for their age. They include:

Forcing infants to stop crying
Making small children take care of their children
Giving the children responsibility to financially support the family
Getting angry once the child fails to do the thing it was “responsible” for