The world of healing crystals is about as wide as the App Store — there’s one for everything. Protection? Check. Better sleep and dreams? Check. Dubious “energetically charged” water? Definitely check. It’s no wonder, then, that there are quite a few crystals with the spiritual capacity to address all types of matters of the heart.
Of course, no stone will get you a date or fix the underlying issues in your relationship, but crystals can serve as a physical, tangible reminder of your own abilities. For instance, wearing rose quartz won’t make everyone you pass fall in love with you. Rather, its subtle, loving energy may prompt you to be a little warmer in your everyday interactions.
So, if you were looking for an instant love life fix, you came to the wrong place, but if you want to stoke the love we know you already have in your heart, read on and discover the right crystal for your needs.
For Self-Love: Kunzite
Negative self-talkers, this one’s for you. Wearing a kunzite pendant or carrying one in your pocket as you go about your day just might remind you to take it easy on yourself. In Healing Crystals and Gemstones: From Amethyst to Zircon, Flora Peschek-Böhmer and Gisela Schreiber write that this crystal can calm the heart and even refute feelings of inferiority. Overcoming your own self-doubt can be difficult — and a single crystal won’t make you do a 180 on how you treat yourself — but kunzite’s heart-opening properties can help nudge you to see yourself in a newly generous light if you let it.
For New Love: Hematite
Hematite is notably less warm and fuzzy than the other stones featured here — and that’s for a good reason. Dating is hard, if not downright exhausting. If you’re ready to put yourself out there (either on the apps or IRL), you’re going to need a stone that imbues you with strength, confidence, and optimism. That’s where hematite comes in. According to Crystals and Stones: A Complete Guide to Their Healing Properties from the Group of 5 Crystals Series, this crystal is believed to reinforce feelings of safety and courage, while heightening one’s own personal magnetism. It’s also an effective grounding stone and is said to help the user maintain a sense of stability — we don’t know about you, but just the thought of going on one more “actividate” has us craving a little extra strength.
For Lasting Love: Lapis Lazuli
If you and your partner are somewhere between casual and exclusive, but you’re both ready to transition fully to the latter, bring some lapis lazuli into your life. In Crystal Bliss, Devi Brown writes that this deep blue stone can help us connect with our inner selves and strengthen the emotional bonds we have with others. She recommends keeping lapis lazuli in the spaces you share more frequently with your partner — and wouldn’t it look lovely on your kitchen table or nightstand?
For Renewed Love: Ruby
Want passion? Then your nightstand could use some ruby. You might only know it as a decorative gemstone, but this crystal has long been associated with romance and sensitivity. Peschek-Böhmer and Schreiber write that it’s believed to revitalize — and even intensify — that loving feeling between you and your partner. So, whether you want to shake up your sex life or lay the groundwork for a relationship-defining conversation, displaying a ruby somewhere in your home might help set the right, loving tone.
For Platonic Love: Emerald
Everyone’s social lives could use a boost now and then — and that’s what makes emerald such a beloved stone. Michael Gienger writes in Crystal Power, Crystal Healing: The Complete Handbook that emerald is a generally inspiring and clarifying stone, but its effects are particularly evident in how we relate to others. This crystal is said to encourage the user to find balance and harmony with others, while pursuing their own definition happiness. Gienger adds that emerald can enhance feelings of unity and make your friendships feel closer. Even if you don’t add one to your personal collection, now you know what to give your crystal fanatic BFF for their next birthday.
For Universal Love: Rose Quartz
We’d be remiss if we didn’t give rose quartz a shout out. This popular stone is the crystal community’s go-to love stone for its gentle, healing influence. Gienger writes that rose quartz is a heart-opening crystal that works to coax the user’s empathetic and nurturing instincts out into the open. In other words, this is the stone of caretakers and healers. We could all stand to show each other more compassion — that’s the lesson rose quartz is here to teach.
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