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Your October Love Horoscope – Difficult Times Ahead With Venus In Retrograde

Matters of the heart will require introspection for everyone this month, as well as some possible growing pains. Venus turns retrograde on October 5 and won’t turn direct until November 16. She’ll retrograde in Scorpio until October 31 but then slides into Libra for her final retrograde stretch. Old romantic wounds might reopen for some but if this happens, the pain is for a purpose. It’s time to purge and heal once and for all. For others, an old romantic connection might come back from the dead. Will you choose to breathe new life into this relationship? Has anything really changed?

A New Moon in Libra on October 8 points to a fresh start in partnership matters for many but since Venus, the ruler of this lunation, is now retrograde, it will require putting something from your past to rest. Love can be hauntingly beautiful this month for some … but it can just as easily be plain old haunting.

ARIES

Oh, Aries … your love life is about to turn into a top-rated reality show. All the dirt, all the secrets, and yes, all the pain are about to be exposed in your romantic world. Even if you thought everything was going perfectly in your love life, this month will remind you that no relationship is untouchable. Temptations happen, people lie, and mistakes are made. Now, don’t assume your happy marriage or committed partnership is automatically on the rocks in October. If you’re in a good place, then this most likely will be about you and your mate having to recalibrate joint finances. With Venus moving retrograde in your 8th House of Shared Resources, it will actually be a good time to tackle the money matters you deal with as a team.

If, however, you’re going into October knowing that something is not quite right about your love life … well … there’s a different storyline unfolding. Venus Retrograde in your 8th house can bring a rather dark and ugly situation between you and your partner to light. This might be something that happened ages ago, something you thought was dealt with. However, for whatever reason, it needs another look. Or, it might come back to haunt you. How you deal with the monsters in your love life closet this month is your choice, Aries. If the love is there, you and your mate will have an opportunity for forgiveness and a fresh start. If the love has been too damaged by painful betrayal or toxic behavior, you might begin to realize it’s time to call it quits.

TAURUS

Oh boy, Taurus! You’re in quite a pickle this month. Your love life is certainly interesting, that is a given — but it’s also extremely complicated. There isn’t anything simple about it these days. Between Venus turning retrograde in your partnership sector on October 5, a Full Moon in your sign on October 24, and all this being topped off with a Venus-Uranus opposition across your sign and your partnership sign Scorpio on October 31 … well, it’s a real soap opera!

On the one hand, you might be feeling very naughty this month, like you’ve been far too good for far too long and it’s time to “tap into your sexy” and get your desires met. On the other hand, with your ruler turning retrograde, it’s unlikely you’ll succeed in getting things exactly the way you want. There’s a definite complication or scandal in the works here, Taurus … possibly both.

You might not be the one causing it, but you’ll certainly be caught up in it. Moments of passion might leave your judgment clouded. An obsession you had for someone you thought you let go of might come back into your life, turning everything upside down. Just when you got into a healthy relationship, something — or someone — comes back into the picture to rock the boat.

The only way to get yourself out of this one successfully is to stand tall in your integrity. Forgive if you must, but do not seek revenge. If you’re in a situation where feeding your desires will hurt another person, then you know it’s wrong. Take the high road. The sweet taste of love isn’t worth making someone else’s heart bleed.

GEMINI

If you’re single, a fascinating New Moon in your true love sector on October 8 might lead to you meeting someone with the potential to sweep you off your feet. What’s even better is that this person is real relationship material. He or she doesn’t want to mess around. They want to get to know you and invest in you. So, what’s the catch?

Venus Retrograde.

Yes, the planet of love happens to begin a nap on October 5, right in the area of your chart connected to work, health, and routine. This does suggest that any new start in love will likely be filled with a delay or a complicated situation that needs to end before the two of you can have this genuine new beginning. One possibility is that one or both of you is still tying up loose ends from a previous relationship. Another possibility is that you might meet the person of your dreams but he or she is connected to your work environment, which might invite a host of problems. Or, it’s possible that you meet this person and then one of you lands their dream job — but it requires a move to another city or state.

The messy details at the start of this love affair don’t have to dictate a miserable ending, but it will require your patience to get love off the ground. If it’s worth it, you’ll find a way.

CANCER

There is a real possibility for you to have a renewal of love with someone from your past. Venus will begin her retrograde motion on October 5 in your romance sector. As this cycle begins, you’ll at the very least find yourself haunted by memories of a past lover. For many, this person will “come back from the dead” and reignite your heart with all those messy sparks.

There is something about this person and you together that is sexy, mysterious, and a little bit dangerous. It’s like when you are together you have the power to be explosive. While this is a good thing between the sheets, this level of intensity often gives way to jealousy, possessiveness, or even manipulative behavior. You might have parted ways over one of you being too controlling over the other. Another possibility is that the relationship itself was toxic in some way. It might have been an extramarital affair or third-party situation. You might have been addicted to each other in an unhealthy way.

Whatever your particular relationship storyline might have been, even though it probably ended badly, you never quite let go. This person has always haunted your heart. And now, he or she is back. What will you do?

LEO

You and your sweetheart might have been playing house together over these last few months. Perhaps the two of you recently bought a place together or one of you moved into the other’s apartment. As Venus begins her retrograde phase in your 4th House of Home & Family on October 5, it’ll soon become clear that the honeymoon is over. The reality of living together and all its complications need to be addressed.

There might be control issues that crop up between you all of a sudden that you didn’t realize were there at the onset of your happy cohabitation. What used to be cute behavior, like someone leaving toothpaste in the sink or drinking out of the milk carton, suddenly becomes abhorrent. In fact, you might find yourself in a battlefield right in your own home with each of you trying to dominate the other in order to make yourself feel more secure. This won’t work.

What will also blow up in your face is trying to control bedroom dynamics because of the way your partner is not satisfying your other security needs. At the root of the matter is a call to finally let yourself be naked with the person you’re living with: body and soul. Letting each other see you in your ugliest, darkest moments at home is an adjustment, but it needs to happen so that you can move on to the phase of truly being at home with each other.

VIRGO

If you have been keeping a secret from your sweetie, or if you suspect he or she has been keeping one from you, things might get dicey this month. Venus turns retrograde in your communication sector on October 5. She’ll retrograde in the sign of Scorpio, a sign known for the more possessive, controlling, and manipulative side of love when expressed in the shadow. When Venus in Scorpio is at her highest vibration, she’s all about transformative, deep, and healing love. Unfortunately, since she’s retrograde, you’ll have to go through the dark side before you can get to her goodies.

There’s suspicion in your relationship, and even if it’s not warranted, it’s there. You and your partner have no choice now but to dive deep into the choppy waters of honest, vulnerable conversations if you hope to come out of this phase stronger. Maybe the greatest lie has been the one you’ve been telling yourself. Maybe you’ve known for a while that something wasn’t quite right in this romance, but you just didn’t want to face it. Never fear, Venus retrograde is about to make you confront all of those love lies.

LIBRA

With your ruling planet Venus turning retrograde on October 5, you’re likely to feel out of sorts all month. Venus will retrograde in your 2nd House of Earned Income, making it vital for you to reassess your finances. The 2nd house also rules your self-worth profile — and that is an even bigger nut you’ll need to crack. It’s likely that something is going on with your love life that has somehow weakened your confidence or overall self-concept. You’re probably not feeling as valued or appreciated by your partner if you’re in a relationship. If this is the case, now is the time to make your feelings known to your mate. At the same time, it’s an uncomfortable truth that the minute you put your happiness or personal fulfillment in another person’s hands, you’re asking for trouble. If you’ve been doing that in your love life, then you need to have a heart-to-heart talk with yourself. Stop waiting for your partner to be your validation and learn how to be your own biggest fan.

A New Moon in your sign on October 8 will help you out in a significant way. You want to turn over a new leaf in your personal life and how you teach others to treat you. Between this lunation and Venus being retrograde in your sign from October 31 through November 16, you’ll have a major opportunity for a personal excavation that will ultimately lead you to a more fulfilling love life in every way possible.

SCORPIO

The level of excavation you’re about to do in your love life is not for the faint of heart, Scorpio. Thankfully, you’re fully equipped to handle this type of intense, brutal digging. Make no mistake, it’ll be the kind that can collapse your world and leave you at the mercy of the unknown. Yet, if you’re strong enough to confront this darkness, eventually you’ll come out on the other side — and maybe, just maybe, find the kind of love that most of us can only dream about experiencing with another soul. This is the kind of transcendental love connection that requires complete surrender, a total willingness to be gutted in order to feel the cathartic release of total healing and empowerment in love. Like I said, this isn’t for the faint of heart.

Venus turns retrograde in your sign on October 5 and for the rest of this month, you’ll be forced to confront every single personal demon you have that prevents you from experiencing the deep intimacy you simultaneously crave and fear with another person. If you’re single, you’ll go beneath the surface and take an honest assessment of the walls you might have erected around your heart. If you’re in a relationship, then it’s possible you and your partner will need to readdress a demon in your relationship that you thought had already been exorcized. Don’t be afraid. Shining a light on the darkest parts of yourself and your partner makes your love all the more real … and all the more worth fighting for.

SAGITTARIUS

There was something about your love life scenario that you didn’t want to face, Sagittarius. Sure, it’s possible that you were innocently blind due to your naive and optimistic nature. Whatever the case, the blinders are about to come off this October. Where you were once blind, you will now see. It might hurt, but what is the alternative? Would you rather keep living a lie so that you can indulge in the fantasy world of fairytale romance you want so much? Or would you prefer to deal with the pain now and address it accordingly so that you can eventually get to a place in your current relationship (or with someone new) that is healthy and real?

Venus turns retrograde on October 5 in your 12th House of Privacy, so like it or not, the secrets are about to be highlighted. If you’re participating in anything unsavory, it might blow up. If you’re not doing anything wrong per se but are sitting in a sea of confusion about your love life, the universe is going to put enough pressure on you, forcing you through the confusion into clarity.

How can you reach clarity when everything seems so complicated? This is definitely a time to trust your intuition. If a love situation is not serving your highest good, then it’s time to let go. If, however, you’re in a difficult relationship with someone who is devoted to you but fighting some type of dark issue, then you might choose to stay. While it’s not your job to be your partner’s dragon slayer, it certainly is a testament to your commitment.

CAPRICORN

You might have been convinced that the person you’re dating now is “The One” and that you’re going to live happily ever after … and then you’ll walk into October and start questioning everything you ever thought to be true about love. This dramatic shift is due to Venus turning retrograde in the area of your chart connected to your capacity to receive love. You might have an awakening that you’ve been settling because the alternative of being alone simply feels unbearable. If that’s the case, you’ll find that you simply can’t continue to go through the motions with someone who isn’t capable of making you feel deeply loved.

For those who are single, you might find yourself in a sudden and very sticky love connection with someone in your social circle by the end of the month. Be careful and take things slowly. There is a great deal of spark here but not enough staying power. All month long you’re under a temperamental influence that can cause you to change your mind about your love life more than ever before. Ironically, through all this instability, you’ll eventually find out what your heart needs the most.

AQUARIUS

It’s quite possible that you’ll find yourself in a salacious situation this month concerning your love life. Whether it’s an outright affair, a dangerous office romance, or anything else, there is the potential for your reputation to be damaged — or at least for someone to try to damage it — if you’re not careful. With Venus turning retrograde in your 10th House of Profession and Status on October 5 in mysterious Scorpio, the darker side of romantic problems are about to come out. In your case, they’ll somehow tie into your professional life or your reputation. Maybe your partner is going through something difficult and your choice to stand by him or her will come at a personal cost to you. If so, your commitment to the love you share will be admirable and your partner will not soon forget your loyalty.

If you’ve found yourself in a compromising position at the office where a higher up has crossed a line and sexually harassed you, it’s possible that you’ll have more than a #MeToo moment this month. You might decide to become vocal about your experience and in doing so, uncover that you’re not the only one this happened to. You might even initiate a lawsuit after October 8 surrounding this issue. Stand your ground.

PISCES

Oh, Pisces … you are the most compassionate, kind, and forgiving sign in the zodiac. These beautiful qualities make you extremely lovable. Unfortunately, they can also make you somewhat gullible and likely to forgive and look the other way when you really shouldn’t. There might be someone you’re involved with who you gave a second chance to. The love you have was so strong, and if you needed to forgive this person for a moral indiscretion, you decided that he or she deserved that forgiveness.

However, the problem as you walk into October is that you thought you were moving on from this situation — but there might be a repeat offense you find out about. This can be anything from cheating, lying, stealing, or an unhealthy addiction that your partner swore was under control. The relapse — in whatever fashion it might be — will make you realize that the problem did not go away — it was just cleverly masked for a little while.